CoL V: Pornification

In a RCoL the phrase "the pornification of everyday life" would never have been invented, and will fade out of use. "Good college boys" would not induce "good college girls" to jello-wrestle at their frat parties, and "good college girls" would never consent to do so. When our lives, souls, and sexuality are actually sacred and valued, we would never commodify each other in this way. We would not confuse this mutual debasement with liberation or sexual agency. An immature, purely specular, and coercive male sexuality is not a liberated sexuality. An immature, purely spectacular, and coerced female sexuality is not a liberated sexuality. The spectacle is not the thing itself. In a mature and liberated sexuality men would "get" to "see" plenty, but what they would see is a woman who knows where her pleasure comes from and on her terms. And when she's healthy, hasn't been abused, and isn't getting off on the sense of acceptance by the boys that jello-wrestling in the basement of frat house affords her-who-doesn't-know-her-worth-yet, when those things are not confused with pleaures, the whole exchange looks very different. It has love in it. And one of the minimum requirements for love is respect. Simple. IN FACT, if liberation and the sacred were involved at all, her sexuality would not be defined solely by his gaze. And it still is, and Lacan is winning, people, and that's not OK with me. This is not yet a CoL in which there are sexes with full life. This is a CoD (culture of death) in which there is still Him and (she) is just a plaything -- no matter she's majoring in poli-sci. Deep structure, folks, in Ren 2.0, we are after the deep structure.